How to Please Your Partner and Be a Better Lover
How to Be a Partner That Pleases
I recently had an exciting conversation with dating coach Tripp from TrippAdvice.com on his How to Talk to Girls Podcast. We dove into some of the most common myths about sex and shared practical tips on how to make an incredible first impression in the bedroom while pleasing your partner.
You can listen to the full podcast or check it out on Stitcher.com, but keep reading to uncover the truth behind those misconceptions and learn what women enjoy in bed!
Breaking the Myths: The Real Truth About Sex
Many men believe they must perform a certain way or hit specific milestones to please their partner truly. But these myths only create unnecessary pressure. The reality? There’s no “normal” when it comes to sex!
“Great sex is unique to each person—what works for one might not work for another!”
Sex is personal, and the most important thing to remember is that there is no single “right” way to do it. Pleasing your partner is about connection, communication, and enjoyment, not rigid standards. Attitude and emotional connection are far more valuable than any technique.
Six Expert Tips for Pleasing Your Partner and Making an Impact in the Bedroom
So, how do you ensure a positive, memorable experience the first time you’re with someone? Here are six tips to help ease the pressure and create a fantastic experience that is pleasing to your partner.
1. Relax and Be Present
Before any physical touch, ensure you and your partner are entirely relaxed. Entering with a “goal” like reaching orgasm only leads to tension. Instead, focus on being present, connecting with your partner, and enjoying the moment. When you’re both relaxed, intimacy flows more naturally, leading to a deeper, more meaningful connection.
2. Take It Slow
The most common complaint I hear from women is that their partner rushes through sex. Women’s bodies need time to awaken fully, so slow down and savor the moment. Take your time with foreplay, explore every part of your partner’s body, and don’t rush into intercourse. This builds anticipation and makes your partner feel truly desired.
3. It’s Not All About the Penis
Sex isn’t just about penetration. There’s a whole world of pleasure to explore! Use your whole body—hands, mouth, heart—to engage in intimacy. Caressing, kissing, and exploring your partner’s sensitive areas (like the neck, ears, and back) will create a more exciting, intimate experience. Make it about connection, not just mechanics.
4. Change Things Up
Don’t let routine become the norm. Introduce variety into your sex life—new positions, different settings, or playful experiments. Novelty in the bedroom can reignite excitement and increase sexual desire. Women appreciate partners who aren’t afraid to try new things and keep the experience fresh and unpredictable.
5. Embrace Fantasy
Your brain is your most powerful sex organ! Fantasies are not only natural, but they can also heighten sexual excitement. Don’t shy away from your sexual fantasies—exploring them can unlock new ways to please your partner. Talking about fantasies can also deepen your connection and enhance trust and intimacy.
6. Don’t Forget About Masturbation
Masturbation is a powerful tool for understanding your body and improving your sexual response. It can also boost desire and make it easier to reach orgasm during partnered sex. Couples who practice mutual masturbation often gain insight into how their partner likes to be touched, which improves their sexual connection. Try switching things up with new sensations or even using lubrication for added pleasure.
Final Thoughts
Pleasing your partner isn’t about perfection or following a set routine—it’s about staying connected, embracing creativity, and focusing on the joy of intimacy. Whether you’re just starting a relationship or reigniting the spark, these tips will help you create an unforgettable experience in the bedroom.
If you have any questions about sexual health or would like more guidance on improving your sexual connection, feel free to reach out for support.
