I was honored to be on a panel of local “sexperts” and joined by product experts and representatives from LELO, Sportsheets, and Jo lubricants offering hots tips and tricks to bring more romance and passion to your Valentine’s Day plans in the bedroom.
This event provided a warm and welcoming environment for individuals and couples to explore sexual wellness. I got the chance to address intimate questions about sex and provide couples with tips to make Valentine’s Day more romantic by focusing on pleasure instead of the cliche gifts.
Some of the main topics we focused on included dealing with sexual boredom, communication in the bedroom, and introducing aromatherapy to stimulate all your senses:
Don’t Be Afraid To Explore Your Sexual Needs
You’re not alone… so many couples deal with sexual boredom! Give yourself permission to experiment solo and partnered to discover your own pleasure map and what you want to experience in sex. Pleasure is not innate. It is learned through stimulation and exploration.
Communication (in the bedroom) Is Key!
Knowing what you want sexually is only half of the equation. Communication is key. The best tips for sexual communication include breaking the ice – sex doesn’t have to be a serious conversation – be direct – you want your partner to understand what you are asking for – vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness!
Evoke The Senses To Trigger Arousal
Essential oils and aromatherapy can be aphrodisiacs. The most powerful essential oil is rose – which contains a high Hz level and stimulates the senses. This is why stopping and smelling the roses can actually make you feel good!
Have Fun with Accessories & Toys
We also discussed the importance of bringing accessories into the bedroom – quality lubricants, massage oil, bondage gear, and sensate tools such as feathers, fur, or silky clothing. And don’t forget the toys! The advantage of vibrators and pleasure devices are the technology and diversity of devices for pleasuring. Most pleasure devices on the market are gender neutral and can be used on the entire body.
Valentine’s Day Sex Essentials
Here’s a quick list of (some) of my favorite sex accessories, toys, and devices to equip you with everything you need to boldly celebrate your lover and yourself this Valentine’s Day season:
LELO SMART WAND™
For couples who demand the most intense and luxurious pleasure alongside deep, surging intensity, the SMART WAND™ is the ultimate all-over-body massage wand. The Smart Wand even comes in two sizes (medium or large). Regardless of size, both provide life-changing, eye-crossing pleasure and can be used from your neck and shoulders down to your toes.
For the girl who wants it all and refuses to compromise, SORAYA™ blends beauty and brawn for complete satisfaction, time and time again. I really love this dual-action massager and it even looks classy, sleek and ultra luxurious!
The ALIA is the most popular device in my practice. Featuring a stunning silhouette and elegant controls, this beautiful pleasure product is designed to please you anytime and anywhere you want it.
vFit uses a unique blend of therapeutic light, gentle heat, and sonic vibration to strengthen and tone your pelvic floor area. After 45 days, participants in a third-party study reported improved vaginal tightness,more vaginal hydration, increased vaginal sensitivity an increase in sexual confidence and they all felt emotionally closer to their partner. ConRev is an exclusive distributor of the vFit and you can purchase it online here!
PDX Elite EZ Grip Stroker
Made from top-quality TPE, EZ Grip Strokers are designed for a non-slip firm grip every time. The Elite EZ Grip Stroker features a unique, textured exterior for a non-slip grip, and an interior lined with stimulating ribs, bumps and canals to satisfy every time!
PDX Ass-gasm Explosion Kit
Grip it, squeeze it, and enjoy tight suction with every thrust of this incredible stroker! The Ass-Gasm features both C-ring + P-spot stimulation that simultaneously stimulates your prostate and boosts your erection. The connector between the ring and the plug causes tension both in the front and in the back at the same time. It also causes active stimulation directly on your prostate when you move. The ring will keep you harder, the plug will drive you crazy. When it's time to climax, expect an out of this world ass-gasm!
Sportsheets has been Keeping Couples Connected® since 1993. The company’s ever-growing line of fantasy products have spiced up the sex lives of countless men, women, and couples around the world. Known for quality, creativity, and competitive pricing, Sportsheets has become a trusted friend and confidant to a growing community of sexually curious adults from every walk of life. Sportsheets is a perfect sex and mischief brand for beginners!
Sylvia from Sportsheets, a well-known retailer of BDSM toys, talked about different product lines including The Edge Spreader Bar. The Edge is a spreader bar that became famous in the cult classic Secretary and Fifty Shades of Grey. The Edge features a hoistable sturdy restraint bar clips on each end so it can be used with wrist, arm or ankle cuffs making it the perfect sexual tool or position aide!
LELO HEX™ Condoms
HEX™ condoms deliver strength, thinness, and sensation through its revolutionary hexagonal structure that allows body warmth to be transmitted between partners for a more sensitive and more intimate sexual sensation.
Tailz Anal Plug
These fluffy anal plug “tails” are great for a wide range of exciting role-play! Be a majestic white wolf or a playful fox, a faithful dog or a naughty kitty. Whatever you decide, the classic shape and hypoallergenic material will fill you up and stay firmly in place, no matter how vigorous your play!
And finally, there’s no better way to explore role-playing than to dress the part! Get into the role with costumes of Disney Princesses, sexy nurse, cop, teacher, or a dominatrix – or strip it all off and try some funky pasties to mix things up!
Peekay Boutiques Inc. is an award-winning specialty retailer with an emphasis on lingerie and sexual health and wellness products. The company operates 45 stores in six states, under the Lovers, A Touch of Romance, ConRev and Christal’s brands. Peekay’s mission is to provide a safe and welcoming retail environment to explore sexual wellness.
Peekay educates customers, primarily women, and couples, about the essential role sexual wellness plays in overall health and well-being. Their stores offer products that enhance sexual wellness in people’s lives. Peekay was founded by women and has always supported many charities and causes that are dedicated to advancing the sexual health of women. By staying true to their mission and vision, Peekay continues to make positive contributions to its local neighborhoods and society as a whole.