How to Spice Up the Sexual Slump in Your Marriage

By December 14, 2017For Couples

Let’s face it: reading the same old sex tips can get boring and bland. So does falling into a steady routine filled with predictable dates and standard “get-the-job-done sex!”

So why not spice things up?

Why not invite your partner, your minds, and your bodies to indulge in a little (kinky) sexual fantasy and role play?

Why not introduce some temptation, new techniques and a kinky helping of eroticism to your relationship?

Read on for some *NSFW* kinky sex tips and erotic ideas that go far BEYOND the same old techniques:

Erotic Sex Tips for Couples

 

Erotic Guided Imagery

Have your partner lay their head in your lap while you lead them in deep breathing and guided erotic imagery. Focus on evoking the senses and imagination to arouse the body. Be creative and provocative.

Here is a sample:

“Lie your head in my lap and feel the heat between my legs. Relax your body and let loose. Breathe deeply as you feel my hands move down your body. As you slowly exhale let your body feel loose. Feel your breath move in and out of your body. Feel the sensations as you breathe in and exhale out. Imagine my hands running up and down your thighs as I…”

Erotic Dress Up

Pick out erotic outfits for each other. Find different articles of clothing that turn you on. Go to your partner’s closet and find items of clothing that make your partner look and feel attractive. Add accessories such as a necktie or bracelet to an erotic outfit. Think about how it will be to remove the clothing while being intimate. Pick a blouse or a shirt that has buttons or has a nice texture. Have fun with pants and skirts. Don’t forget the underwear! Pick an erotic outfit for every part of the body. Once you have the erotic outfit picked out, invite your partner to wear it for you. Spend time dressing and undressing each other.

Genital Pressure Hug

Walk up slowly to your partner and wrap your arms around them tightly. Embrace each other openly and sensually while you feel your bodies connect. Breathe together slowly and deeply. Push your genitals towards each other. Hold the tension as you press your genitals together for one second and release. Hold each other tightly after this release. Push your genitals together again and move your hips from side to side. Imagine a genital hug where your bodies feel in total connection. Look up towards each other and slowly lock eyes, breathe in deeply and exhale, and come together for a kiss with full lips and slight tongue.

 

Erotic Eye Contest

Sit in a relaxing position facing your partner. Start to breathe deeply and slowly. Look into your partner’s eyes deeply. Keep an intense gaze while breathing slowly and steady. Make different faces, expressions, and eye signals (wink, raise your eyebrows, give bedroom eyes, lick your lips, bite your lower lip etc.). Communicate through eye contact only. Don’t say anything or try to make much noise. Enjoy the pleasure of exchanging erotic and playful energy through the intimate act of eye gazing. Feel the soothing and relaxing sensations of emotional resonance with your partner. When you are done making eye contact, come forward slowly and give your partner a long and wet kiss on the lips, chin, forehead, and cheeks.

Erotic Handshake

Use a lotion or an oil to massage your partner’s hand.  Stimulate yourself with your partner’s hand. Guide your partner’s hand to where and how you want to be stimulated in and around the genitals. Also guide your partner’s hand on your chest and abdomen area, side of the body from the armpit to the base of the hips. Use your genitals to create sensations using your partner’s hand. Rub your genitals on your partner’s palm, fingers, and all areas of the hand. For a penis – place fingers on one hand together and form a circle. Massage the hand with oil to create a silky surface. Guide your partner to penetrate this area and massage the penis between your fingers. For a vulva – start with one finger and trace the entry of the vagina. Use two fingers to massage up and down the labia. Slowly massage the clitoral hood and shaft of the clitoris. Use your partner’s fingers to slowly penetrate the vagina and massage the exterior and interior parts of the clitoris.

Erotic Massage Map

Make a map of your body starting with numbers 1 – first, to 10 – last. Label all of the parts of your body that you want your partner to massage and caress. Indicate the types of touch and pressure you want to receive. Share your map with your partner as a guide for giving pleasure. Switch roles and take turns massaging each other.